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    MitchM

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    I'm thankful for the TV show "Hoarders".
    It's brought to light a past secret that many people and families suffered with.
    It's a real disease and these people need help; dealing with them certainly requires patience and better understanding.
     
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    CountryEscape

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    You are sooooo correct, @MitchM ! I always just thought my brother was lazy for nothing washing dishes and tossing trash. He's still mad at me for not recycling his milk jugs ... with curdled milk still in them. Yuck!
    And, when I look at all the "stuff" I have, I know that I also need to purge a LOT! I am about 2 years away from retiring, maybe more, maybe less, depending on my attitude toward work ... and it's something I will be doing in earnest when I retire. One room at a time, and the barn and other outbuildings. I was so glad to have all that "space", which has been utilized for more "stuff". Ugh!
    I agree, @Lisak1, I sure hope by the time I die, the only thing left for my kids to have to deal with will be money. My mom has done this for herself. She has the "500 items or less" rule! I'm taking a pair of socks is 2 items! Yes, she is well below that, I'm certain! And, she is still getting rid of stuff. But, she is ready for death, too, and it will be a breeze to handle her estate, so I want to be like that when I die. I sure hope I don't die soon ... my kids would kill me! LOL
     
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    So very true. I think it's way more prevalent than many people ever realized. The interesting thing is my mom did a lot of social services work for county agencies. She used to tell us about the "path houses" - homes that were so stuffed full of junk that the person living there had just a small path to walk. She was appalled at the way some people lived... and now here we are. We have had to have lots of hard conversations with her - like the time she sent me a nasty email about the fact that we never come to her house anymore and I had to point out that we couldn't because A. she had a dog that would murder anyone who tried to step foot on her lawn and B. her house was so full of stuff that there wasn't a chair left for anyone to sit on. Every available surface was covered with years worth of newspapers, magazines, files from her work days (she's been retired for 10+ years - she just never put it all away), junk mail, bags of things she bought but never put away... and of course, food. She got rid of the dog (after he bit the UPS man, the meter reader, and chased a lady visitor back to her car) but the clutter stayed.

    She did finally admit before the move that she was overwhelmed and embarrassed by the clutter and since moving into her new apartment she has had lots of visitors over for coffee - something she used to enjoy doing before the house got so - as she termed it - "messy". So we are hopeful that she will keep her apartment nice...but I'm honestly not holding my breath.

    And @CountryEscape - I operate on the "one in, two out" philosophy. If we buy something new, two old things go out the door. So even as I'm contemplating buying something, I'm asking myself "what am I willing to give up to buy this?" Sometimes I decide it's just not worth it. I've also done the 40 Days/40Bags for Lent purge for the last three years and will do it again this year - for every day of Lent, I "give up" one bag (or one large item). It's a refreshing way to look at Lenten sacrifice while also leading into spring cleaning with a good purge!
     
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    I love the 40 Days/40 Bags idea, @Lisak1. I sure need to get rid of a LOT of clothes! I'm living in a 3 bedroom house (but 2 of the bedrooms became one larger one) with 3 closets, plus front door coat closet, closet in utility/laundry room, and they all have stuff in them! It's JUST ME! Yep, I sure have an issue. But, at least the overall appearance of my house is not cluttered. Oh, and I have a basement, it has my Christmas decorations and ... stuff. LOL I bought baby stuff for when my grand babies came to visit, but 3 live in North Dakota, and the other lives 3.5 hours away, so it's harder for them to come see me, I usually go see them!
     
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    addy1 water gardener / gold fish and shubunkins Moderator

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    I have one tiny closet of clothes, most of my life I wore scrubs, I have some nice tops, wear only if we are going out. OW t-shirts, shorts and jeans. Our house is a basic rancher, we both came from huge places.

    My neighbor's pastor has a auction in October to help their camp for kids, I have purged tons of stuff to them, get a tax write off. I take car loads to her house, they pick it up. Still have more to go. Hauled to much stuff from AZ when I moved, mainly tools.

    I was raised in a two bedrm house with a attic, which my dad finished and 8 kids, Most of us shared the attic, good old sloped roof walls.
    It was crowded cluttered, I can't stand clutter.

    This winter was to be our clean out the basement fix it up, winter , well Baltimore took over.
     
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